What does that
look like? A URL? An email address? Or what? That was the question I asked
myself when I received a letter by hand, from Femi Sam, who introduced himself
as an experienced tutor in a recognized academy. He met me at the IT office of
his good friend and promised to keep in touch. The informal letter (*laughs*)
was quite directionless but I he specified that he wanted an electronic mail
for himself. Then I understood why he sent his CV attached with the letter, so
I would enter the right information into the fields. I was quite puzzled
because the e-mail address he specifically wanted was ww.samofeming@.com.
In the process
of learning/execution, many times, many requesting organizations do not really
know what they want, yet they appear as if they do. Some requests are absurd to
the performer while to the requesting party, they make all the sense in this
world. For a simple hearted person that makes impossible requests, it is easier
for the performer to guide him through what is right to do. Sam Femi said I
shouldn’t bother if the email address he specified was not available. I tried
to explain the absurdity of his request to him via a phone conversation. He was
not interested in my suggestion. ‘’NDBWY sir’’, I said in my mind.
I’m yet to
receive any mail from that particular address. Many times, it’s difficult to
receive corrections particularly if you appear like a know-it-all; when you do
not want to step down from your rung of pride. Some people would rather
manipulate a good hearted performer who tries to correct them, making him feel
silly. It’s terrible not to be teachable!
Over confidence
won’t allow you ask questions. ‘Oversabi’ deceives you that you know it all.
‘Over-saturated brains’ hardly open up to suggestions. Ayo Arowolo, a
recognized financial consultant, said he didn’t learn much from his mentor at a
particular point. He asked questions and when the ‘Baba’ made an attempt to
answer, he would interfere and add take over from the man. The wise ‘Baba’
allowed him until he realised he wasn’t learning! Until he became humble and teachable, he
didn’t learn the principles that delivered him from his massive financial
trouble. Can you sit to be taught what you (think you) know, and it will come
out as a fresh idea? Are you teachable?
Assumption is the bedrock of a great fall in the process of execution.
Everytime you
interfere with the process of help from a tutor, performer or colleague, the
relationship ends with a NDBWY action. If you read well, I didn’t say that it’s
bad to be confident in what you know. I simply said it’s terrible to be over
confident, causing you to turn down suggestions which are seemingly contrary to
what you know, or below your knowledge level. There’s a way to help the
performer/tutor even if his propositions are wrong. The point is- listen first!
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